Other People Stories

“I just wanted to let you know that Simon reached one year of recovery from his gambling addiction today, and to thank Jane for the great program that you have. Each day is a gift to both of us, and we will be forever grateful for the tools that he was given to him to travel the road to recovery each day. We are both convinced that had he not gone to speak with Jane one year ago, our lives would be much different today.”
Simon and Tracey

Jane, it’s this time of year we all truly appreciate what we have and what we are grateful for.
I look back to July 2014, when my life was a mess, and it was controlled by gambling. Then I met you and began my recovery from gambling. Seems like yesterday, but Gambling free almost 2 years, I realize I could not be where I am today without the help of your organization. Thanks Jane.
Mike

It took a serious look in the mirror to understand how bad my addiction had become, and those looks in the mirror still continue today. One day at a time. But like most things, if you have a balance in life, the problems aren’t as bad and the addictions aren’t as controlling. I just know that if I hadn’t met you and done this work, things might not be so good at this point in my life.

Please share with anyone who can benefit.

Thank you with all my heart,
Jenni

My life was out of control. I had been a FIFO worker for 3 years and made plenty of money every month. All I had to show for my work was debt. One night I realized I need help and quickly. Thanks Jane, I have my life back and am punt free for over 18 months.
Trevor

Thank you Jane, I have my family back.
Mark

Matt’s Story

I am 23 years old and never thought I would end up in the situation I’m about to describe. I play online poker which I always believed was pretty “harmless” because it was just something I did to fill my spare time when I wasn’t in class, working, hanging out with friends or my girlfriend. This innocent game quickly became something that I never intended it to be as I watched myself eventually lose not only money, but valuable time.

It got to the point that I didn’t care if I saw anyone else not even my girlfriend who I love very much because all I wanted to do when I got out of class or home from work was gamble online. I eventually began to skip class especially my morning classes because I would be up all night until 4 or 5 AM and too tired to get up for class.

Gambling began to shut out everything else in my life that once was important to me. I no longer cared if I went to class even when my grades began slipping and I didn’t care if I saw anyone, in fact I actually got to a point that I preferred to be “alone” so no one would meddle.

My girlfriend and I began arguing a lot as she was feeling very neglected and in hindsight I guess I can’t blame her because I was no longer there for her and even when I was with her she stated, “ I was acting different like I didn’t care that she was around and that I had changed.” I found our usual date nights boring and couldn’t wait to get home so I could get online again. That was much more exciting to me. It wasn’t long before she broke up with me.

At first I didn’t care because I just thought she was overreacting and it gave me even more time to gamble, but I did begin to miss her. I rarely saw my friends anymore.

That’s when I realized I needed help……

I know I made the right decision by getting assistance I have learned other ways to relieve my stress and boredom and now if I feel anxious or want to bet, I’ll use the skills I have been taught. I have found other hobbies to fill my time and my feelings of loneliness have gone. If you ever find yourself in a similar situation, don’t be afraid to ask for help. It’s available and it works.

Mary’s Story

Mary has had lots of experience with addiction: Her father, former spouse and daughter have all dealt with some form of addictive behavior. So she wasn’t too surprised last year when she finally faced the truth: she had a gambling problem.

“I started to wonder about myself two years ago,” Mary explained. “I was playing lots of pokies and not paying attention to relationships. I was existing in blah land.”

Relationships she thought would work didn’t. People close to her, including her grandchildren, were noticing that things weren’t quite right.

“I was hitting the casinos,” Mary explained. “I was winning sometimes, but then losing several hundred dollars in one night. After a night at the casino my mind was just shot. I couldn’t focus and I realized it was from playing so much for so long.”

It was time to seek help. Mary found help last May.

“In looking back I realized there was an empty space in me,” she said. “I was looking for some kind of fulfillment or an escape from responsibilities. I needed something outside of the routine—something to make me feel better about myself.”

Whether it was bingo games or slot machines, Mary said there was a trance-like feeling when playing. “You don’t even observe or notice the people around you.”

When she sought help, Mary knew she was emotionally ready for treatment and she’s made solid progress since starting the counselling.

“With the Counselling you know you’re not alone. I really appreciate the professionalism and understanding I got from Jane. I’m finding other things to do like going out for coffee with friends and spending more time with my family.”

Mary added that gamblers make up their world with fantasy, but “I want to make it real, get to the point where I can have strong healthy relationships and find comfort and serenity.”
Mary

Jane Grant 0417 949 103 or janegrant1@bigpond.com